Do you still want to get back together with your ex?You see how all of these things can radically impact your decision as to when to get back out there?
Either way, I have decided to back off somewhat and see how things play out.
I love your column and think you do a great job of answering questions and concerns with sympathy, empathy and insight.
I couldn’t convince her to take me back, so I did what I do best – I went back online – literally MINUTES after I returned home from the teary breakup.
And I don’t know the first thing about you or your individual circumstances.
Now, in some respects, this made sense, in that I wasn’t going wallow in misery and think about what I did wrong or how I could fix things.
The only “right” answer is “whenever it feels right, as long as you’re not hurting anybody else.” The thing is: you might be surprised when you’re hurting someone else.
I was in no position to be a boyfriend to anyone but my beloved ex-girlfriend.
My need to move on superseded her need to be with an emotionally available guy….
The best example I can provide is from my own life.
To me, it was the equivalent of being fired from a job.
I asked if that’s why he doesn’t want to move in—because he’s afraid we’ll break up and it’ll be a pain to move out.