He’s been using Grindr for about three years and said he’s had both positive and negative experiences. “Sometimes I get, like, these really trashy perverts and sometimes I meet really cool people that I end up becoming friends with.That app and Tinder, another location-based dating app primarily used by straight singles, are becoming increasingly popular as a way to find relationships.Both have similarities: they’re free, they use a phone’s location to find people in the area, and they accommodate small profiles for users to communicate what they’re looking for.
They both had a lot in common, though, and Shelby-Dunn thought, “I’m just going to go for it.” He leaned in for a kiss, but he didn’t like where the night went from there.
Breaking up is hard(er) to do Social media has made it more difficult to call it quits.
Leo Shelby-Dunn had been talking to someone on Grindr for about a month when he decided to invite him over to his place.
Profiles consist of photos, short descriptions and physical characteristics such as height and body type.
What they cannot do, just like online dating sites, is give a true and full sense of who the person on the other phone is and whether the chemistry will be there when the face-to-face occurs. Shelby-Dunn, a 26-year-old Chico State history major, knows this first-hand.
“He was into all this crazy, kinky shit,” Shelby-Dunn said.
“I was like, ‘Whoa, you did not mention this at all.’ I’m not vanilla, but I’m definitely not rocky road.” Shelby-Dunn is one of the 5 million users of Grindr, a location-based dating app specifically for men, that scrolls through profiles of gay, bisexual and transgender men looking for everything from serious relationships to casual hook-ups to friendships.
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