If you recognize that your loneliness may be affecting you in that way, you can take steps to counter it.
Most people have suffered from loneliness at some point.
Remember that although the distinction can be difficult to draw, loneliness and solitude are different.
White observes, “It’s entirely reasonable to feel lonely yet still feel as though you need some time to yourself.” Loneliness feels draining, distracting, and upsetting; desired solitude feels peaceful, creative, restorative. Nurturing others — raising children, teaching, caring for animals — helps to alleviate loneliness. Keep in mind that to avoid loneliness, many people need a social circle and an intimate attachment. One of the most common indicators of loneliness is broken sleep — taking a long time to fall asleep, waking frequently, and feeling sleepy during the day. White observes that making lots of plans with friends didn’t alleviate her loneliness.
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According to Elizabeth Bernstein’s recent piece, Alone or Lonely, the rate of loneliness in the U. One reason: more people live alone (27% in 2012; 17% in 1970). A while back, after reading John Cacioppo’s fascinating book Loneliness, I posted Some counter-intuitive facts about loneliness, and several people responded by asking, “Okay, but what do I about it? ” I then read another fascinating book, Lonely — a memoir by Emily White, about her own experiences and research into loneliness.
White doesn’t attempt to give specific advice about how to combat loneliness, and I don’t want to put words in her mouth, but from her book, I gleaned these strategies: 1.
Have you found any good strategies for making yourself less lonely? For more along these lines, check out Happier at Home, chapter on “Neighborhood.” If you’re reading this post through the daily email, click here to join the conversation.
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Every Wednesday is Tip Day, or List Day, or Quiz Day. One major challenge within happiness is loneliness.
The more I’ve learned about happiness, the more I’ve come to believe that loneliness is a terrible, common, and important obstacle to consider. About 40% of Americans report being lonely; in the 1980s, it was 20%.
Show up, make plans, sign up for a class, take a minute to chat. The pain of loneliness can prod you to connect with other people.
Unfortunately–and this may seem counter-intuitive--loneliness itself can make people feel more negative, critical, and judgmental.