To be clear, you’re not asking your children for permission.
It’s hard to imagine dating again after you go through a bitter divorce. But over time, those emotions will fade, and you’ll feel ready to jump back in the dating game.
The biggest challenge is figuring out how to squeeze dating into the equation – and tell the kids.
One day, they just bring home their new partner, and their kids are left feeling confused, hurt and even angry.
Dating is a personal decision, but it does affect your children.
Here are some tips for divorced dads who are trying to navigate the dating scene.
A lot of divorced dads make the mistake of not talking to their kids about dating.
Your children may want to know more about the people you’re dating – their name, what they look like and if they have kids. But be careful of introducing the people you date to your children.
And if your kids have no interest in meeting your new friends, respect their wishes.
Remind your kids that they are the most important people in your life, but that you’d also like to have special friends that you can go to the movies and have fun with. That’s okay – there are no set rules as to when you should start dating again.
And if you’re finding yourself talking incessantly about your ex, it may be too soon for you to think about starting a new relationship.
It may also inadvertently give your children a negative impression of romantic relationships.