If your 16 year old does not already have a curfew, now might be the time to set one. Beyond her nightly curfew, you might set rules that dictate when and how much she can date -- especially if you have concerns about her schoolwork or other responsibilities that might suffer.The website Healthy suggests a school night curfew of between 8 p.m. For instance, you might let her go out with a boy on a Friday or Saturday night, or you might allow her only one weeknight date per week.
You cannot control who she daydreams about or who asks her out, but you can exercise veto power if necessary.
Tell your daughter that you have final say over whom you allow her to date.
Explain to her that you will not veto a date just because you do not know him well or he is in a different grade, but that you will only say no if you truly feel her date is inappropriate.
Tell her that she cannot go out unless you know where she is going, with whom she is going, and when she plans to be back.
Ask that she text or call you if she knows she is going to be late -- even if she knows that she is going to break curfew -- and that she must immediately call you to pick her up if she ever feels unsafe or if her date makes her feel uncomfortable.
Rules about dating are not trying to prevent her from participating in this normal, healthy social experience -- the rules have a purpose.
You should create limits that give you peace of mind and that keep her safe. Explain that the curfew is rigid and that she must be home by curfew -- and tell her the consequences of coming home late.
She thought you were kidding when you said that you did not want her to date before she is 40.
At 16, your daughter is probably old enough for dating, but she is too young to know all the dangers and pitfalls that come with dating.